Listen and Respond
Couple’s massage workshop in Shropshire
They say communication is the key to a good relationship and being able to hear and respond to each other is the essence of a real conversation.
When I’m giving sessions of therapeutic massage in Whitchurch, I’m engaged in a conversation with my clients, and not just with words. The body communicates so much.
During the massage, I’m not trying to make anything happen. I know this sounds strange, as when you come to see me, I’ll ask you about what you want from the session and what you need working on. I will focus on those areas, but more than trying to have a particular outcome, I’m listening to the body. I’ll apply a stroke, maybe some pressure, or mobilisation and all the time I’m listening. I’m waiting for cues from the body about where it is at and where is it’s point of let go.
Some people will tell you massage is no pain no gain. While this has more validity in physio and sports style massage, it’s not the way I work. I am looking for the edge of where it becomes painful, for the point just before it feels too much, and then I hang out there. By waiting on this point, often the body will ease up around the pressure and let go. And sometimes this doesn’t happen, and I move onto something else. That’s why I say I’m not trying to have a particular outcome, because if the body doesn’t want to let go, I don’t try to make it, I move on.
This is the essence of what I teach in a couple’s massage workshop in Shropshire - communication. To give and receive a massage, you need to be able to listen and respond to each other.
First of all, this is with words: it’s good to check in and make sure your partner is enjoying the level of pressure and that they are comfortable, and it’s also very important for the one receiving to speak up if something doesn’t feel right, or just to say if something feels really good.
Then there’s the subtler forms of communication that are happening throughout the massage. Look for the cues from the body – is your partner tensing up? If so, then you need to ease up the pressure. Does the muscle feel soft or tight under your touch? Do you feel you are working hard to get into the muscle, or it is relaxing and softening?
I see that one reason a couple’s massage workshop in Shropshire is so beneficial to partners is because it gives space for them to listen, respond and hear each other, something that may have got lost in the busyness of life.